Communicating with your Child

Anger when not addressed properly will create havoc in everyone's home
I have attended a workshop that has given valuable information to effectively listen, understand and impart our message effectively.

These are elaborately discussed but here are the key points:

• Start with calmness & intention- be thankful, pray for patience & polish self-confidence

• When patience runs low : Pause,  straighten your body & breathe, speak softly & sweetly, try to find your quiet place and meditate

• Personality Profile, identify oneself and children, and you will understand one's behavior.  (In the workshop, we were grouped and had questionnaires to assess ourselves and our kids)

• Task Oriented, Leaders-  agree & explain how to get the task done
• Organized, Logical Thinking- discuss the  process of things
• Playful & Social Leaders - approach in a playful manner
• Kind presence , a mediator - a sweet & gentle approach

• Understand  yourself and the Child's Modality, approach with words and actions 
• Visual - 'As you can see', 'Please look'
• Auditory - 'As you can hear', 'Please listen'
• Kinesthetic - sensitive with feelings, ' Can you feel;' or relate with emotion 

• Elements in Communication : Clear + Congruent + Pro-Active
• state your purpose, say what you want your child to do , not what NOT to do, don't say DON'T

• Words to Remember
• Yes + And + Because